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4 thіngѕ tо соnѕіdеr аѕ уоu decide tо change уоur life fоr thе better

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Arе уоu ѕtіll hoping аnd waiting fоr ѕоmеоnе ѕоmеwhеrе tо соmе tо уоur rescue, wave а magic wand аnd instantaneously change уоur life fоr thе better?

Arе уоu praying thаt уоu wіll оnе day win thе lottery аnd dramatically alter thе financial quality оf уоur life?

Arе уоu sitting bеhіnd уоur desk, daydreaming аnd hoping tо оnе day rise tо thе top level оf management wіthоut muсh effort аnd hard work?

Arе уоu hiding іn thе background, silently praying аnd hoping thаt уоu wіll find favor, gеt noticed аnd bе thrust іntо thе limelight оf уоur destiny?

If уоu аrе tired оf hoping аnd endlessly waiting fоr ѕоmеthіng positive tо happen оr ѕоmеоnе tо соmе tо уоur rescue, mаkе а deliberate decision today tо tаkе charge оf уоur оwn life аnd bеgіn tо lead а fulfilled аnd productive life.

4 thіngѕ tо соnѕіdеr аѕ уоu decide tо change уоur life fоr thе better.

1. Vаluе yourself.

Vаluе yourself, уоur life аnd уоur time. Vаluе whаt уоu represent. Don't compromise whаt уоu аrе worth fоr anything. Yоur current position mау nоt accurately define whо уоu are, but іf уоu place а high vаluе оn yourself, уоu wіll nоt оnlу hаvе greater expectations fоr yourself, but аlѕо bе open tо mоrе possibilities аnd opportunities.

People whо place а high vаluе оn thеmѕеlvеѕ саn confidently walk іntо аnу arena оf success аnd tаkе thеіr place comfortably. Thеу fit rіght іn bесаuѕе thіѕ іѕ whаt thеу hаvе bееn waiting fоr thеіr whоlе lives аnd thеу knоw thаt thеу deserve it!

2. Tаkе responsibility fоr уоur оwn destiny.

Bе practical аnd stop expecting оthеr people tо rescue уоu frоm уоur current distress. People саn оnlу dо ѕо much...the rest іѕ uр tо уоu аnd уоur God gіvеn abilities аnd resolve. Gеt rid оf thе dependency syndrome! It incapacitates аnd blinds уоu frоm dоіng great thіngѕ wіth уоur life аnd gеttіng thе success уоu ѕо muсh yearn for.

If уоu аrе nоt gоіng tо bе thе recipient оf а large inheritance оr іf уоu hаvе nоt уеt won thе lottery, bеgіn tо dо thе rіght thіng bу charting уоur оwn road map tо success аnd working intelligently, meticulously аnd persistently tо achieve уоur success.

3. STOP dоіng whаt dоеѕ nоt work!

If уоu desire tо change уоur life fоr thе better...take а minute tо соnѕіdеr specific aspects оf уоur life оvеr thе lаѕt thrее years. Hаvе уоu ѕееn аnу improvement іn уоur business? Hаvе уоu lost weight? Arе уоu ѕtіll working аt thе ѕаmе place thаt stifles уоur creative abilities? Arе уоu ѕtіll іn thе dreaming phase оf thаt project уоu wanted tо accomplish? Arе уоu ѕtіll procrastinating аbоut gоіng bасk tо school? Arе уоu ѕtіll dоіng thе ѕаmе thіngѕ thаt produce unproductive аnd dissatisfying results?

Hоw muсh longer саn уоu kеер dоіng thе ѕаmе thіngѕ thаt don't work? Yоu оnlу hаvе оnе life tо live аnd іf уоu plan tо live а fulfilled life, stop dоіng whаt doesn't work, start dоіng thе thіngѕ thаt work аnd change уоur life fоr thе better.

4. Tаkе а definite tangible action step today!

Changing уоur life fоr thе bеttеr means dоіng ѕоmеthіng today thаt produces results! If уоu can't tаkе radical steps, tаkе small deliberate steps tоwаrdѕ thе change уоu desire. Onе оf thе greatest impediments tо success іѕ procrastination. It іѕ ѕо оftеn uѕеd аѕ аn excuse fоr inaction tо thе point thаt іt hаѕ bесоmе ѕо mind-numbing!

Nо оnе wаntѕ tо hear thаt thе оnlу reason whу уоu hаvе nоt managed tо turn уоur idea іntо reality іѕ bесаuѕе уоu hаvе bееn procrastinating! People wаnt tо stand аnd cheer fоr thе doer аnd thе achiever whо hаѕ tаkеn positive steps tо improve thе quality оf thеіr lives. Thеѕе аrе thе inspiring stories thаt wе read аbоut everyday аnd уоu tоо саn bе thаt story.

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Inertia and courage in changing your life

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Life Inertia 

Personal Growth: Changing your life “inertia” takes courage

I recently came across two articles by Jim Taylor, In the first he introduces the concept of life inertia: "The tendency of people, having once established a life trajectory, to continue on that course unless acted on by a greater force." This he follows with another which explores the role of courage in changing the trajectory of life inertia.

In short these are powerful ideas about the having the guts to actually change your life and he uses Star Wars and Indiana Jones to make the point. Brilliant!

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Stop Procrastinating and Change Your Life

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We've all done it. When we were young we did it and now as adults we do it. Of course you know what I'm talking about its Procrastination. It almost seems like a dirty word. You remember your mother would tell you to do chores and stop being lazy. Or remember your boss ordering you to "Get going or it'll be your last job". It can be a real problem for many people, employers and families. Learning to spot signs of procrastination can be of immense value not only for individuals but for the people around them. It can mean the difference between having a great standard of living and living on the streets. It could mean finding someone you love or being alone for a long time. We all have our reasons for putting things off, but you should do it in a way where it will have minimum effect on your life. Don't cripple your plans to build a great life, supercharge them. Let's find positive ways to stop procrastinating and change your life.

Some say procrastination is anxiety forming in our minds forcing us to delay tasks. It can cause us to kill our tasks which may end up killing our dreams. We may FEEL lazy or FEEL unmotivated making us change our choices. Given this statement it can be viewed not as a mental or behavioral issue, but an emotional one. It can also depend on your personality type such as small business people or even because of the type of job we hold. However we can take measures to lessen its influence through diligence and work. Once we learn how to overcome it the sky's the limit. Motivating one's mind and spirit can do wonders for improving your life. It can mean more money, better relationships and strong quality of life.

One of the best ways to overcome procrastination is to just do whatever task needs to be done. No delay, no thinking and no feeling just do the task immediately. Once started you can freely continue to progress with no delay or downtime. You just keep on trucking, happily knowing you are on your way to accomplishing your goals. It's like climbing a hill with the tough part only in the beginning, 90% is downhill after that. Another way to stop the slow-down is not to slow down! Keeping a rigorous pace can sustain momentum, being "On-a-Roll" as it were. This way you can jump any hurdles and avoid any downtime periods. Also don't evaluate in terms of mediocrity. Basically if you don't feel mediocre and don't do mediocre things then you will be less likely to fall into a mediocre pattern. This is why positive thinking works so well. If you don't fixate on a problem, then the issue can dissipate faster or you'll think of a solution easier. This has worked for many people who just don't "feel down". Staying upbeat can make you do upbeat things, which in turn get you excited and keep you motivated. This alone can make you seem more vibrant and attractive. Nobody wants to hang out with a downer, right? So don't be one.

Procrastination can be a result of deeper issues or behaviors. Take the time to honestly evaluate your position in life. Any behavior can be brought to the surface because of some underlying emotion. For example you may lash out at your family because of a bad day at work. Your inability to deal with work can make you irritable at home and vice versa. Not shopping for new clothing can be a way to delay going to social occasions. You don't have nice clothes so you can't go to the events, bypassing your social anxieties. Procrastinating can be the result of your inability to complete a project. You may know you don't have the skills so you delay the outcome of the project. Or it may be the opposite you may think the success of the project will get you more attention, attention that you may not want because of social or other anxiety. It could also mean fear of more responsibility. Your boss may promote you giving you more work. You may feel overwhelmed at the thought of a promotion. What if a promotion meant re-locating to a different city? You may fear losing a lover or friends for the sake of your career. Procrastination can be the visible behavior for so many internal emotional deficiencies.

When you have a pile of work don't rush into it. Take a step back and breath…get a cup of coffee or just take a walk. When you return start the first task and so on, until you are moving along quickly. Not feeling the frustration can be more than enough to put you on the right track. Changing your environment can also change your feelings. Like stated before, taking a walk can clear one's mind. Exercise can be a great way to expel the bad mojo. Remember don't let the procrastinating feelings start and you won't have to deal with them. Keep your body healthy, eat the right foods and get plenty of rest. Don't set yourself up for a bad day. You have it in your power to stay above the problems. Eventually this constant state of "being ahead of the curve" can become a habit. Whenever you feel the slightest bit of laziness, you will notice it and nip it in the butt.

All the ways to stop procrastinating and change your life can be used to improve other areas that need work. Your relationships, family, work and friends can all be improved upon. You don't have to change your whole lifestyle. Just start in one small area and progress to the next area. With a little work, you'll be able to get rid of procrastination for a long time. Make it a core part of your personality it IS possible to change your life, right now, today. You can make such a change in your life that will have a positive effect on you and others around. Stay positive and keep at it.

The root cause for procrastination.

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Why is it that we as human beings often behave in ways that we don't really want to? How often have you said or done something only to cringe at the thought of it afterwards? The truth is that your behaviour is mostly driven by your unconscious mind, especially behaviours that is hard to explain from an intellectual point of view. Procrastination is knowing what to do, having the ability and desire to do it, but still you don't do it. Although there are many apparent causes for procrastination, the root cause for this illogical behaviour resides in your unconscious mind.

Your conscious mind is very limited in its ability to deal with life. That over which you have conscious control is mostly limited to one thing at a time. This is why using your willpower to create any real change rarely works long term. What you need to do is to change your automatic behaviour which resides in your unconscious mind, that part of you that controls all the vital function of your mind and body. You can try and overcome procrastination by using willpower but it will usually be a short term change. The cause for procrastination is not your conscious actions, but your unconscious associations that is to a large extent responsible for your behaviour.

Your nervous system is designed to preserve you and when fear presents itself your nervous system, through the working of your sub-conscious, will "kick in" to "protect you. The ironic thing is that we train ourselves, unconsciously, to fear certain things by making false associations about the meaning. Nothing in life has any meaning but the meaning you give it. You literally create neurological links to experiences that gets "stored" in your nervous system so that you can act quickly and accordingly next time. Whenever something happens to you, you assign a meaning to it by the way you communicate the experience to yourself. Unconsciously you are always trying to establish meaning and at a very basic level you are trying to establish whether something means pain or pleasure. This meaning then gets stored in your unconscious mind that will help you act (or re-act) appropriately in the future. The challenge is that when associations are reinforced you build up beliefs that will greatly influence your behaviour and is often the cause for procrastination.

Although procrastination makes no sense intellectually it actually reveals a lot about your unconscious and your self imposed limitations and (in)abilities. The major cause for procrastination is fear, and more specifically your fear that taking action will lead to pain or a painful experience of some kind. At some level your unconscious mind combines and searches it's "files" to come up with a "link" that associates the action to a painful experience. This can range from something which is mildly uncomfortable to something physically painful. Although you consciously want to do something your unconscious will prevent you as it associates pain to the action. As human beings we automatically reach for comfort and will almost automatically reach for whatever feels comfortable in the moment. This is why you often procrastinate on tasks that do not feel good in the moment although it will mean much more pleasure in the future.

Learning to push against this need for comfort is what creates all the growth that is necessary for you to really produce results. When you start to see procrastination as a blessing in disguise; you can start to use it and embrace the behavioural insights it holds for you. Procrastination reveals your fears and, quite by design, gives you the necessary resistance needed to expand and grow in your capacity to push past your fears and create the things you really want for your life. The quality of your life is in direct proportion to the amount of "discomfort" you can comfortably deal with. Procrastination can also shed some light on the goals that you value most, as your concern over procrastinating on it shows that some part of you care enough to be concerned.

It's been said that first we form our habits and then our habits form us. This is also true for habits of mind and procrastination often manifests itself as a habitual pattern of thinking. Your thoughts lead to and help create your actions. Like the engraved pattern on a record your behaviour will "play the same tune" every time. Your associations to pain and pleasure play an important part in your habitual behaviour in that it determines what you will or will not do. By repetition you form habitual patterns of thinking that will cause you to automatically act or retract in certain ways when your habit pattern gets triggered.

Being aware of your associations to pain and pleasure is critical in dealing with the root cause of procrastination. There are many symptomatic solutions that will not create a lasting result. Although you have to use your willpower initially, your aim is to re-establish your associations to the tasks you are avoiding. You can be, do or have whatsoever your heart desires providing that you can overcome your self imposed fears and take action. Although the real cause for procrastination resides in your unconscious mind, you are ultimately in control with your conscious actions.

The High Cost of Doing Nothing

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Cost is sometimes a difficult term to define. Here, we are not simply discussing cost as it relates to selling price, but rather opportunity cost. The web site, "Mentors, Ventures and Plans" defines opportunity cost as "The loss of the next best alternative whenever a decision is made involving two or more options". "Investing in Options" defines it as "Choosing the best alternative means that you can't choose the next-best alternative. Opportunity cost is the next-best alternative that must be sacrificed in order to get something else you want. Opportunity cost can be thought of as the road not taken." Inactivity, or doing nothing, is usually the highest price paid and is often associated with great opportunity cost. Inaction is usually the worst decision one can make, made from a base of fear.

Many of us will freeze when facing decisions. For some reason, decision making becomes complex, paralyzing and even painful for many people. It should not be this way. Making a decision is simply the act of choosing between alternatives. You must learn to weigh the implications of each possible decision and choose the outcome that is best for you and all others involved. For example, when your telephone bill comes due, you may choose to pay it or not. There are real obvious consequences for both actions. The situation becomes more complex however, when our human emotions enter the picture. For instance; you are offered a new job and must decide to leave your current position and move your family to a new location, hundreds of miles away.

What we often fail to realize, is that delaying important decisions or simply not making a decision at all, are actions that often impact us with the highest opportunity costs and worst case scenarios. Inactivity, or the lack of a decision, is actually a decision made, although one seldom made in our best interests. In this case, we unfortunately transfer over control of our lives to external forces and circumstances. We are now positioned to be at the mercy and decision-making of others. This is not your best scenario. There are often unusually high costs associated with doing nothing.

Decision making is actually a skill set that can be learned and refined. Like all skills, entering into a new area as a novice requires practice and application in order to see improvement. Keep in mind that you will indeed improve! Start small, with less important decisions involving less than crucial outcomes and gradually make more decisions on matters of greater importance. Soon, you will have few if any issues with making decisions. Learn to start small and work your way up, gradually extending your comfort zone in this area. A by-product of learning these new skills is that your confidence will surely improve as well.

Decision making need not be frightening. Think of it as a process that is your own, shedding any external pressure that others may be applying. Take your time, get your facts and choose the outcome that works best for you. Do not allow yourself to fall victim to the high cost of doing nothing.

Overcoming procrastination the effective way.

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Who and what you are at this moment in time is nothing but the result of your consistent actions. The same is true for what you will become as a person. Being caught up in the destructive habit of procrastinating will only serve to immobilize you and deprive you of a future that might end up being only a dream. Overcoming procrastination has no magic "cure", but requires of you to truly develop yourself and grow in your capacity to take action.

Procrastination truly is a strange behaviour, but is definitely there by design as it provides you with the necessary resistance to push against in order to build your inner strength and "emotional muscle."

Procrastination is a call to action. Avoiding the very tasks that will give you the results you are after is not very intelligent. You have to step up and strengthen your resolve. The easiest way to snap yourself into action is by making a decision. Decision is the father of action and all action flows from decisions. The challenge is that we have been using the word decision so loosely that it lost much of it's true meaning. When you make a real decision, a true commitment, you cut off all the possibilities other than that which you are absolutely committed to. Like any other skill you need to get better at making decisions by making more of them and as you develop this ability you will get better at overcoming procrastination until you eventually develop the habit of being decisive.

A truly committed decision will turn your "shoulds" into "musts." In fact, this critical distinction separates procrastinators from action minded and decisive achievers. We all get what we have to have and we only get our "shoulds" when it is convenient. The most common reason why people procrastinate is that they just don't "feel" like doing it. When you don't feel like doing it, it simply means that you associate more pain to taking action than to avoiding it. As human beings we are to a large extent controlled by our emotions and feelings. You will do almost anything to avoid painful emotions and gain pleasurable emotions. Your beliefs about what will lead to pain or pleasure serves as a reference that will guide you in making decisions. Changing your limiting beliefs is a powerful way for overcoming procrastination. The only reason why you can't take action is because of your belief(s) about why you can't.

Beliefs are designed as a short cut for your mind to make decisions quickly. Even if you haven't got exact experiences your mind will make it up based on your beliefs. We all have a built in need for certainty and our beliefs give us that sense of certainty. The most potent beliefs of all are the beliefs you have about yourself and your own abilities and capabilities. If you belief that you are a procrastinator and that you can never follow through and create results, then no matter what technique or strategy you learn or apply, you will always be a procrastinator. Your beliefs about yourself create your identity and one of the strongest need within your character is for your actions to be consistent with your identity. Whatever identity you hold will create your reality.

Your beliefs are mostly formed unconsciously by life experiences and the meaning you take from it. You are the master of meaning and the way you communicate your life experiences to yourself will determine what things mean to you. The way you talk and communicate with yourself is a form of hypnosis and most people give themselves a real hard time when they screw up. They indulge in negative self talk. That installs disempowering beliefs about their abilities and capabilities. Overcoming procrastination requires of you to take control of your internal communication. What you say to yourself about yourself and your life will eventually determine what actions you take.

People who are happy, successful and fulfilled are not lucky or born under the right stars, but are individuals that have learned how to overcome procrastination and take action even when they don't feel like it. When you don't feel like doing it you are simply not in a resourceful emotional state. The quickest way to change this is to change your mental focus; change your concentration and that which you are paying attention to. If you focus on the painful and unpleasant aspects of any task you will eventually start to procrastinate, even if you are incredibly disciplined. Your focus is your experience of life. Learning to control and direct your focus on the pleasurable aspects of taking action will empower you to overcome procrastination. Develop the habit of taking the long view; of focussing on the outcome and not the process and watch yourself move past procrastination.


Highly effective strategies for overcoming procrastination

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In this day and age we are so inundated with choice and opportunity that you might even say that we are spoiled for choice. There is just so much that we could do that we often end up not doing anything at all. Procrastination is one of the biggest dream killers. In a world where there is so much demand on your attention it is becoming ever more difficult to stay focussed and act on the things that would truly give you an extraordinary quality of life. Time is, was and will always be your most valuable asset and the way you use it will determine what you create or fail to create with and for your life. Having an effective strategy for overcoming procrastination is critical if you truly want to push past short term obstacles to create a life of fulfilment.

The abundance that modern life offers us tends to overwhelm us which leads to an emotional overload that will distract you and scatter your effort and concentration. There simply isn't enough time to do everything, but there is always enough time for the most important things in your life. Success at anything in life, whether it be your finances, your relationships or your body, requires an investment of time and effort from you. You need to focus and concentrate your physical and emotional resources on creating a desired result.

The first step in overcoming procrastination it to get really clear on exactly what you want from every area of your life. This clarity will give you the power to look past distractions that may throw you off course. It gives you a direction and a target and will help to build a mental picture for your life. One of the most destructive effects of procrastination is that it makes you feel out of control; like the events of your life is controlling you. If you don't know what you want it is all too easy to jump from the one task to the next. Apart from knowing what you want you should also develop some strong reasons why you want it. This will give you a sense of purpose and motivation that is critical for staying focussed long term.

The truth is that most people know what they need to do to create their life the way they want it. The challenge is not with knowing what to do, but in doing what you know. The only way you will create any result in your life is by taking action and procrastination is what prevents you from acting on the very things you know would give you a greater quality of life. The reason why people procrastinate is primarily because of fear, especially fear of failure. By not taking action and postponing important actions you avoid the potential for failing. The only reason why you procrastinate about anything is because at some level you link more pain to taking action than to not taking action. The ridiculous truth is that these "links" are mostly conjured up (by you) in your mind and they are not even real. When you make a task too big in your mind it will overwhelm you and it would seem too difficult and too big and you will end up procrastinating.

One of the most powerful strategies for overcoming procrastination is to learn how to break your tasks up into bite size pieces. Any task, no matter how big can be broken down into small manageable tasks that is easy to do. If you focus on climbing Mount Everest it will probably put you off immediately, but if you focus on climbing seven small mountain sections it becomes more believable. The power of chunking down your "big" tasks empowers you to take back control of any overwhelming situation -- you cut it down to size. Your size.

One of the quickest ways to overcoming procrastination is to learn and utilize the power of immediacy. What can you do immediately? What action can you take right now that will move you closer to your goal? Doing something, no matter how small, will immediately break your mental pattern of procrastination and put you back in control. Taking the first step, even if it is small will create momentum and you will almost automatically be driven to take another step. Don't wait for everything to be perfect before you take the first step. Just do it. Just get it going. Often you will only know what to do next after taking that first step.

There are many strategies and skills you can use for overcoming procrastination. You don not have to be stuck or spinning your wheels. Like any skill you need to learn and practise it until you get good at it. Eventually it will become an automatic response and you will develop the habit of taking action despite your fears and apparent limitations.

Make Procrastination Work for You

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Everyone, to some degree, procrastinates. We all put off things that we don't want to do. That doesn't mean we do nothing. Au contraire! Most procrastinators get plenty done; it just isn't what is most important or urgent. Procrastination is the art of doing something else when there are more important things to do. There is a way to make procrastination work for you. Since all of us have this skill to varying degrees of proficiency we might as well put it to use.

The act of delaying is the true gift of procrastination. Until now you might not have thought of it as a gift, but it is. Many people get overbooked and overload their schedules with activities and commitments they don't want to do because they said yes before they really thought about it. Delaying is a great way to prevent over- scheduling and saying yes to things you should decline. When someone asks you to do something, respond that you need to check your schedule. Ask for a day or two to think about it and tell them you will get back with your answer. Use procrastination as a tool to prevent yourself from getting overbooked.

Procrastination will also assist with getting a lot done. I know it sounds strange, but it works exceptionally well. The trick is to have a major project that needs completion, but that you don't want to do it. My house was never cleaner than when I was working on my dissertation. My husband actually caught me outside cleaning the kitchen garbage can with a toothbrush. When he asked what I was doing I replied, "Avoiding working on my dissertation." I knew exactly what I was doing and it worked. I got a lot accomplished including my dissertation. The key is to leverage the advantage of procrastination. Let it move you to complete all the jobs you want to get done. You will still have time to complete the big job you have been avoiding.

Procrastination has a bad reputation, but the truth is that it can help you accomplish a great deal. Use procrastination to your advantage. Use it to delay saying yes to everything. This way you will give yourself time to think, and you won't get overbooked. It will also help you get things done because, when you are procrastinating, you aren't just sitting around. You are doing any task to avoid doing what you need to be doing. That is fine, and actually you will get twice as much done. So stop beating yourself up and enjoy perfecting the art of procrastination.