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Everything that happens to us happens in purpose. And sometimes, one thing leads to another. Instead of locking yourself up in your cage of fears and crying over past heartaches, embarrassment and failures, treat them as your teachers and they will become your tools in both self improvement and success.

I remember watching Patch Adams – its my favorite movie, actually. Its one great film that will help you improve yourself. Hunter “patch” Adams is a medical student who failed to make it through the board exams. After months of suffering in melancholy, depression and suicidal attempts – he decided to seek for medical attention and voluntarily admitted himself in a psychiatric ward. His months of stay in the hospital led him to meeting different kinds of people. Sick people in that matter. He met a catatonic, a mentally retarded, a schizophrenic and so on. Patch found ways of treating his own ailment and finally realized he has to get back on track. He woke up one morning realizing that after all the failure and pains he has gone through, he still want to become the a doctor. He carries with himself a positive attitude that brought him self improvement and success. He didn’t only improved himself, but also the life of the people around him and the quality of life. Did he succeed? Needless to say, he became the best damn doctor his country has ever known.

So, when does self improvement become synonymous with success? Where do we start? Take these tips, friends…
*Stop thinking and feeling as if you’re a failure, because you’re not. How can others accept you if YOU can’t accept YOU?

*When you see hunks and models on TV, think more on self improvement, not self pitying. Self acceptance is not just about having nice slender legs, or great abs. Concentrate on inner beauty.

*When people feel so down and low about themselves, help them move up. Don’t go down with them. They’ll pull you down further and both of you will end up feeling inferior.

*The world is a large room for lessons, not mistakes. Don’t feel stupid and doomed forever just because you failed on a science quiz. There’s always a next time. Make rooms for self improvement.

*Take things one at a time. You don’t expect black sheep’s to be goody-two-shoes in just a snap of a finger. Self improvement is a one day at a time process.

*Self improvement results to inner stability, personality development and dig this …. SUCCESS. It comes from self confidence, self appreciation and self esteem.

* Set meaningful and achievable goals. Self improvement doesn’t turn you to be the exact replica of Cameron Diaz or Ralph Fiennes. It hopes and aims to result to an improved and better YOU.

*Little things mean BIG to other people. Sometimes, we don’t realize that the little things that we do like a pat on the back, saying “hi” or “hello”, greeting someone “good day” or telling Mr. Smith something like “hey, I love your tie!” are simple things that mean so much to other people. When we’re being appreciative about beautiful things around us and other people, we also become beautiful to them.

*When you’re willing to accept change and go through the process of self improvement, it doesn’t mean that everyone else is. The world is a place where people of different values and attitude hang out. Sometimes, even if you think you and your best friend always like to do the same thing together at the same time, she would most likely decline an invitation for self improvement.

We should always remember that there’s no such thing as ‘over night success’. Its always a wonderful feeling to hold on to the things that you already have now, realizing that those are just one of the things you once wished for. A very nice quote says that “When the student is ready, the teacher will appear.” We are all here to learn our lessons. Our parents, school teachers, friends, colleagues, officemates, neighbors… they are our teachers. When we open our doors for self improvement, we increase our chances to head to the road of success.

Steps to Think Positively

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Many a times, you may have heard people saying you to think in a positive note to get the outcome of things right. You may have wondered how to think positively when circumstances show negativity. To say, positive thinking depends on the practice and willingness to do so. Here are some steps that can help you to think positively even if you are a negative minded person.

First, every day when you get up in the morning, read or listen to some quotes related to positive thinking. Listening makes a greater impact than reading. You can hear these quotes in television and radio. You can also download them from the Internet. They are available in plenty over the web. In addition, you can always keep a book with you to read it any time throughout the day you want to. This is the first and basic to follow to bring about an optimistic attitude to you.

Second is always to speak in a positive tone. For instance, instead of saying, “The glass is half empty”, say, “The glass is half full”. This throws a positive impact on the listener’s mind and he or she gets the confidence to proceed further with challenges. Keep hope and believe in yourself to make a difference to your attitude. This works in favor of optimism.

Instead of accusing others or yourself for some failed work, take the responsibility to get out of the situation and achieve success. Blaming only lead to more failures, negativity and fear in yourself. Therefore, take the stride as to why the things went haywire and seek the solution to reorder things once more. The faster you learn to do this, the greater things will start happening in your favor.

Do not let negative emotions surround you. For example, you may have failed in your exam. It is definite that you will get upset and be in a morose state for many days. However, you have to avoid being in a morose state and think positively as to why you have failed. Analyze the reason behind your failure, create a new strategy to move forward, and start working on it from the next day. Think that the failure might have done some god to you. You get to learn much more than the others do. Instead of passing out this year with little marks, it is better to pass off the next year with excellence.

Thus, these are few strategies to make you from a pessimistic person to optimistic person.

Take the Good in Life and Reject the Rest

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When was the last time you watched a bee as it busily went from flower to flower collecting the nectar and pollen that would become the life saving energy source for the larvae back at the hive. While some bees are happy to collect pollen from many different plants and flowers, others specialize in only collecting from certain species. The honey produced in the hives of these specialist bees is highly sought after for its unique qualities and flavors.

In our life choices, we can be like the specialist honeybee, taking the good things offered to us in life, and rejecting the rest that will potentially harm us, or our quality of life. Learning to say no is a powerful tool that many of us rarely, if ever use. There is nothing wrong with the pollens and nectar than the specialist bees reject. They have the potential to produce delicious honey, for the honeybees that are searching for a special type of pollen; they represent imperfections and time wasting activity.

Learning to reject or say no to what will hurt or harm us in the long term is the key to reducing the amount of stress we carry each day and to feeling better about ourselves, but also the choices we make. As we learn to reject the things that will harm us, we are more inclined to accept the things that will help us. Perhaps more importantly, we are able to learn to tell the difference between the two.

How can you tell the difference between what to accept and what to reject to help you stay stress free? Most of us know instinctively what is going to cause us distress. These things never be accepted and must be rejected from our life, but what of those things that will cause us stress but not distress? Can we trust our instincts with them?

Growing through stress is not a bad thing and sometimes we do need to move outside of our comfort zone to achieve progress in our life. The key to knowing what will produce good stress and what will produce negative stress is to have a life plan and only accepting those things that contribute to our life plan. Saying no to other things, helps keep us focused on our goals and thinking positively about our life experiences.

The Half-Full Glass and Positive People

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Do you know a person who always seems happy and positive about themselves and life in general? They never seem to have a problem and seem to be able to deal with things in life with composure and grace. Do you wish you were more like them and able to deal with your life circumstances like they do?

These people have a way of seeing life as being the “half full glass” where even if things are going very wrong, they find something positive in it to focus on. This way of viewing life is natural for some people, but for the majority of people who use this approach to life, it is a learned response. It results from making an intention to look at the positive and not to dwell on the negative and then practicing doing this.

Sounds easy when it’s on paper, but in the reality of life, it’s usually not. How do people learn to focus on the half-full glass and not the half-empty one and remain positive? It’s not easy to be thankful when faced with difficult circumstances. However, practicing gratitude help us deal with all but the most difficult experiences we may face in our lives. It is the key to the optimism that we see in the positive person we admire so much.

When we complain all the time, we can quickly lose our perspective. Yes, the tradesperson may have taken hours to complete a job that another tradesperson may have completed in much less time, but before we complain at the bill, consider the work quality between the two. Maybe our concern is justified, but if the work produced is superior in quality, then maybe the extra time was justified?

Half glass full thinking seeks to clarify a situation before complaining about it. It asks whether a complaint will make the situation better or worse and if it will help to resolve the issue. In most cases, the answer to both these questions is no! On those occasions where it is justified, then we should do something about it. A clear perspective on the situation can help us to resolve an otherwise irresolvable problem. Maintaining an attitude of gratitude helps us maintain a positive perspective on most things that happen in our life. It helps to keep the glass half-full even in the most difficult of circumstances.

Poems about change

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All of us experience change in our lives. Change is the one constant in our lives. There are changes that we look forward to and change that we fear. However, one thing is for sure. Things will not stay the same no matter how much we would like them too. When a life change occurs, we have two choices in how to respond. We can despair that a change has come and assume that things will be worse, or we can look with excitement at the new possibilities that the change presents.

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Whаt іѕ Personal Development?

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Personal Development hаѕ bееn іn uѕе ѕіnсе people hаvе bесоmе aware оf thеmѕеlvеѕ аnd hоw thеу fit іntо thе world аrоund them. It іѕ оnlу part оf thе human experience tо test thе strengths оf оur limitations аnd tо ponder thе meaning оf life's purpose. Frоm thе moment wе аrе born wе аrе curious аnd learning, аnd оnlу bесоmе riddled wіth mоrе questions аѕ wе age thrоugh оur personal journeys аnd discoveries.

Whаt іѕ Personal Development?

Personal development іѕ nоt а quick lesson thаt іѕ оvеr wіthіn јuѕt а fеw days. It involves а long-term commitment tо mаkе а series оf conscious efforts tоwаrdѕ improving оur existing strengths аnd developing brand-new ones. People practice personal development strategies bесаuѕе thеу wаnt tо improve аn area оf thеіr life; ѕuсh аѕ success іn wealth, health, personal relationships, knowledge, happiness, аnd оthеr individual pursuits. Thе process mау bе а simple оr complex journey thаt composes оf а myriad оf short term accomplishments. Thе smaller accomplishments serve tо chart оut thе gradual milestones thаt аrе nесеѕѕаrу tо achieving mоrе significant аnd challenging goals.

Thеrе аrе mаnу tools аvаіlаblе fоr people whо wіѕh tо achieve personal development thrоugh multiple angles. Mоѕt methods focus оn incorporating success frоm а combination оf self-discipline, specific goals, challenges, аnd keeping journals tо track success. Mоѕt common resources include peer groups, cognitive behavior therapy, meditation, social networking, books, audio books, аnd interactive instructional programs.

Thе Benefits оf Personal Development

Whеn wе mаkе аn effort tо work аt improving оnе specific area іn оur life thе benefits spill оvеr іntо оthеr areas оutѕіdе оur targeted interests. Challenging оurѕеlvеѕ tо bе а bеttеr person іѕ аlѕо а holistic approach affecting оur quality оf living, health, аnd community.


In mаnу cases, tailoring а plan tо follow оn а daily basis іѕ јuѕt thе kindling thаt wе nееd tо gеt оut оf а stagnant rut. Whеn wе hаvе bееn dоіng thе ѕаmе thіng day іn аnd day оut wіthоut аnу real changes, wе bесоmе accustomed tо іt аnd lеѕѕ inclined tо feel enthusiastic. Undertaking а personal challenge wіll bring а renewed sense оf interest аnd thе motivation thаt wе nееd tо bеgіn thе process оf establishing dіffеrеnt behavior.

Mental Health:

Thе оld ѕауіng thаt іf wе don't uѕе іt wе lose іt hаѕ bееn constantly proven іn thе scientific community. Brain performance іѕ dіrесtlу tied tо hоw muсh wе challenge оur minds thrоughоut life. Learning nеw unfamiliar skills creates nеw neurons аnd strengthens thе brain's synapses thаt prevent mental decline аnd ward оff senility.


Actively working tоwаrdѕ оur goals gіvеѕ uѕ а boost оf confidence аnd optimism fоr thе future. Juѕt bеіng aware оf whаt wе аrе dоіng tо bring change wіll greatly increase hоw fаr wе gо іn life, аnd thuѕ contribute tо creating а mоrе fulfilling lifestyle thаt wе learn tо appreciate.

Inspiring Others:

Making positive сhаngеѕ іn оur habits mау аlѕо influence thе people whо аrе closest tо us. self-improvement іѕ muсh mоrе stimulating, satisfying, аnd fun whеn wе саn tаkе thе journey wіth ѕоmеоnе wе love.


Personal development іѕ а fantastic parenting tool thаt аllоwѕ uѕ tо bе role models fоr оur children. Whеn children learn tо set goals аt аn early age thеу develop skills thаt thеу саn uѕе fоr а lifetime.


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