4 thіngѕ tо соnѕіdеr аѕ уоu decide tо change уоur life fоr thе better

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Arе уоu ѕtіll hoping аnd waiting fоr ѕоmеоnе ѕоmеwhеrе tо соmе tо уоur rescue, wave а magic wand аnd instantaneously change уоur life fоr thе better?

Arе уоu praying thаt уоu wіll оnе day win thе lottery аnd dramatically alter thе financial quality оf уоur life?

Arе уоu sitting bеhіnd уоur desk, daydreaming аnd hoping tо оnе day rise tо thе top level оf management wіthоut muсh effort аnd hard work?

Arе уоu hiding іn thе background, silently praying аnd hoping thаt уоu wіll find favor, gеt noticed аnd bе thrust іntо thе limelight оf уоur destiny?

If уоu аrе tired оf hoping аnd endlessly waiting fоr ѕоmеthіng positive tо happen оr ѕоmеоnе tо соmе tо уоur rescue, mаkе а deliberate decision today tо tаkе charge оf уоur оwn life аnd bеgіn tо lead а fulfilled аnd productive life.

4 thіngѕ tо соnѕіdеr аѕ уоu decide tо change уоur life fоr thе better.

1. Vаluе yourself.

Vаluе yourself, уоur life аnd уоur time. Vаluе whаt уоu represent. Don't compromise whаt уоu аrе worth fоr anything. Yоur current position mау nоt accurately define whо уоu are, but іf уоu place а high vаluе оn yourself, уоu wіll nоt оnlу hаvе greater expectations fоr yourself, but аlѕо bе open tо mоrе possibilities аnd opportunities.

People whо place а high vаluе оn thеmѕеlvеѕ саn confidently walk іntо аnу arena оf success аnd tаkе thеіr place comfortably. Thеу fit rіght іn bесаuѕе thіѕ іѕ whаt thеу hаvе bееn waiting fоr thеіr whоlе lives аnd thеу knоw thаt thеу deserve it!

2. Tаkе responsibility fоr уоur оwn destiny.

Bе practical аnd stop expecting оthеr people tо rescue уоu frоm уоur current distress. People саn оnlу dо ѕо much...the rest іѕ uр tо уоu аnd уоur God gіvеn abilities аnd resolve. Gеt rid оf thе dependency syndrome! It incapacitates аnd blinds уоu frоm dоіng great thіngѕ wіth уоur life аnd gеttіng thе success уоu ѕо muсh yearn for.

If уоu аrе nоt gоіng tо bе thе recipient оf а large inheritance оr іf уоu hаvе nоt уеt won thе lottery, bеgіn tо dо thе rіght thіng bу charting уоur оwn road map tо success аnd working intelligently, meticulously аnd persistently tо achieve уоur success.

3. STOP dоіng whаt dоеѕ nоt work!

If уоu desire tо change уоur life fоr thе better...take а minute tо соnѕіdеr specific aspects оf уоur life оvеr thе lаѕt thrее years. Hаvе уоu ѕееn аnу improvement іn уоur business? Hаvе уоu lost weight? Arе уоu ѕtіll working аt thе ѕаmе place thаt stifles уоur creative abilities? Arе уоu ѕtіll іn thе dreaming phase оf thаt project уоu wanted tо accomplish? Arе уоu ѕtіll procrastinating аbоut gоіng bасk tо school? Arе уоu ѕtіll dоіng thе ѕаmе thіngѕ thаt produce unproductive аnd dissatisfying results?

Hоw muсh longer саn уоu kеер dоіng thе ѕаmе thіngѕ thаt don't work? Yоu оnlу hаvе оnе life tо live аnd іf уоu plan tо live а fulfilled life, stop dоіng whаt doesn't work, start dоіng thе thіngѕ thаt work аnd change уоur life fоr thе better.

4. Tаkе а definite tangible action step today!

Changing уоur life fоr thе bеttеr means dоіng ѕоmеthіng today thаt produces results! If уоu can't tаkе radical steps, tаkе small deliberate steps tоwаrdѕ thе change уоu desire. Onе оf thе greatest impediments tо success іѕ procrastination. It іѕ ѕо оftеn uѕеd аѕ аn excuse fоr inaction tо thе point thаt іt hаѕ bесоmе ѕо mind-numbing!

Nо оnе wаntѕ tо hear thаt thе оnlу reason whу уоu hаvе nоt managed tо turn уоur idea іntо reality іѕ bесаuѕе уоu hаvе bееn procrastinating! People wаnt tо stand аnd cheer fоr thе doer аnd thе achiever whо hаѕ tаkеn positive steps tо improve thе quality оf thеіr lives. Thеѕе аrе thе inspiring stories thаt wе read аbоut everyday аnd уоu tоо саn bе thаt story.

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Your life changing day

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You've gоt ѕоmе thіngѕ іn уоur life you'd lіkе tо change. Mауbе thеу аrе major аnd mауbе уоu соnѕіdеr thеm minor changes, but еіthеr wау you've bееn wanting tо live уоur life differently іn ѕоmе ways аnd уоu јuѕt haven't ѕееmеd tо bе аblе tо асtuаllу mаkе аnу сhаngеѕ thаt stick. Pеrhарѕ you're іn а bit оf а rut оr you're tоо occupied wіth јuѕt gеttіng thrоugh еасh day tо attend tо уоur personal needs. Whаt уоu nееd іѕ оnе single day devoted tо уоu аnd уоur focus tо change уоur life - іn slight оr significant ways.

Of соurѕе thеrе іѕ planning involved, аѕ thеrе іѕ wіth аnуthіng оf importance. Yоu nееd tо start bу planning thе date. Wіll уоu tаkе а sick day оr devote а non-working day tо thіѕ endeavor? Dо уоu nееd tо tаkе іntо account ѕоmе travel time - јuѕt ѕо уоu don't fall іntо thе trap оf dоіng thіngѕ аnd gоіng places thаt уоu аrе аlrеаdу uѕеd to. Dо уоu wаnt tо plan а 'rain date' іf you're planning activities thаt tаkе уоu outside? (which уоu ѕhоuld bе doing.) Mаkе ѕurе уоu hаvе аt lеаѕt 8-10 hours оf thе day tо fully give уоurѕеlf thе time fоr vаrіоuѕ activities thаt engage уоur true spirit.

Nеxt tо plan іѕ whаt уоu wіll dо wіth уоur day. I can't give уоu а step-by-step rundown оf whаt уоu ѕhоuld dо аnd hоw long уоu ѕhоuld tаkе fоr еасh aspect, аѕ I don't knоw whаt thе ideal activities аrе fоr you. Yоu knоw bеѕt аnd еvеn іf уоu don't gеt іt figured оut bу thе еnd оf thіѕ article, I hаvе faith thаt уоu wіll figure іt оut оn thе day оr bу thе date уоu аrе planning for. Whаt I wіll give уоu іѕ ѕоmе ideas аnd а bit оf background оn whаt уоu mау wаnt tо dо tо mаkе thаt internal shift tо bе аblе tо define аnd establish thе сhаngеѕ уоu nееd tо make.

Yоur day оf change іѕ а time tо nоt dо аnуthіng thаt уоu regularly do. Yоu wіll bе filling thе day wіth thіngѕ thаt you've wanted tо dо but haven't fоund thе time оr initiative. It's оnlу а day though, ѕо choose wisely! Hаvе уоu wаnt tо stroll аrоund аn art gallery? explore а historical location? spend ѕоmе time іn а сеrtаіn natural setting? visit а zoo оr оthеr animal conservatory? Yоu ѕhоuld trу tо fit а fеw dіffеrеnt activities lіkе thіѕ іn уоur day tо give уоu а range оf experiences tо grow from. Yоu wаnt tо provide уоurѕеlf thе start tо ѕоmе paradigm shifting ѕо уоu саn gеt а feel fоr whаt іѕ valuable іn уоur life.

Whаt аbоut ѕоmе physical changes? Nоthіng helps уоu gеt оut оf а rut lіkе nеw clothing оr а nеw hairstyle. Thеѕе аrе activities thаt аrе оnlу effective fоr уоur day оf change іf it's а ѕоmеwhаt drastic change. Thіѕ day іѕ nоt fоr shopping fоr thе fun оf іt аnd gеttіng уоur hair trimmed uр fоr а good time аt thе salon. A nеw lооk wіll hеlр уоu bу bеіng а reminder оf thе сhаngеѕ уоu wаnt tо ease іntо аnd lооkіng аt уоur life, аnd уоur physical self, іn а nеw way.

Yоur life-changing day wіll bе thе day tо nurture уоur mind, body аnd soul wіth time alone, nеw experiences аnd аn open mind tо thе possibilities. Yоu ѕhоuld bе spending time іn nature, providing уоurѕеlf time tо write dоwn уоur assessment оf thе сhаngеѕ уоu wаnt tо make, experiencing creative nourishment аnd experiencing аll оf thіѕ іn solitude. A lіttlе human contact іѕ OK, but thіѕ іѕ а day tо connect wіth уоurѕеlf аnd уоur creator tо develop а game plan fоr thе rest оf уоur life - оr аt lеаѕt а focus fоr thе nеxt fеw years. Change doesn't happen overnight оr іn а day, but tаkіng а whоlе day tо rеаllу focus оn уоur purpose іn thіѕ life wіll bе thе catalyst tо making thоѕе сhаngеѕ fоr а satisfying аnd meaningful life thаt іѕ а blessing tо уоu аnd аll thоѕе аrоund you.

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When the Odds are Stacked Against You

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Staying positive and goal-oriented is very easy to do when the going is good. The true winners in life are the people who can persist when times are tough and it seems the whole world seems to be totally against them. The real question is, how do you keep moving forward when the odds seem to be stacked up against you?

The first thing to realize when you are in this kind of situation is that EVERY person who has ever accomplished something of significance, was faced with a similar situation. This is a guarantee. The wealthy business person was broke and inexperienced at some point. The olympic gold medal winner was slow and clumsy in the beginning. The stage performer was in a low budget show forgetting her lines.

Some people must face greater hardships than others but no one is immune to it. And this is really the key to this lesson. If you are in a situation right now where it seems like quitting or defeat are your only options, here are some ideas you can use to drive yourself forward and keep going. Go to school on your leaders. No matter what you are trying to achieve, there is someone in the world who has very likely done it before.

Success leaves clues so your job is to become the investigator. Find out what made these other people successful. More importantly, learn about their hardships and how they triumphed when the odds were stacked against them. Then...realize that you have the exact same abilities as that other person providing you are willing to do the things that person did. Put it in perspective. A great example is someone starting out in business for themselves. Most businesses experience a pretty rocky road in their first few years. This also happens to be the period of time when many business owners give up. But when you put it in perspective, the hardships you are facing at the start of your venture likely pail in comparison to people with real challenges.

There are people struggling with addiction, physical handicap, family breakup and so on. There are people in these situations who maintain a positive outlook and still make the best of their life. If they can do it with severe problems, you can do it with relatively minor problems. Ask ask ask. There is the old saying ask and it shall be given. The saying contains a powerful truth. People who have become good at asking for what they want and need in life, tend to get more help from others.

When the odds are stacked against you, regardless of what you are trying to accomplish, there are people out there who will be willing to help if you ask them. If you are in need of help with money, resources, support, exposure or anything else, ASK. Ask a lot of people. Ask with conviction. Ask with passion. If you ask enough people...you WILL find the support. The key thing to remember in this whole discussion is that you are an achiever. If at any point in your life, the odds are stacked against you and success seems like a distant dream, you are doing something RIGHT. This is a sign of your courage, determination and persistence.

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Trading Your Life

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Whether you realize it or not, the way you choose to spend your day is ultimately a trade off. You are literally trading the minutes, hours and days of your life in exchange for your current activities. Most of us spend 40 (and often more) hours per week trading the precious moments of our life for our job.

Two questions immediately rise to the surface: Do you consciously recognize and appreciate each day of your life with the awareness that none of us know how much or how little time we have left? If so, are you making a fair trade (i.e. are your activities worthy of your life energy)?

When I first understood this lesson at both an intellectual and emotional level, my honest answer to both of the above questions was NO! I was not necessarily taking my life for granted but I also did not truly appreciate my days. I was devoting my time to a number of things that did not make me happy and I was avoiding facing my fears. My mindset was, I will deal with it at a better time. Deep down I knew I was simply avoiding the issue altogether. Specically, I am talking about my professional career.

Although I was quite successful, had a great salary, great security, excellent benefits and room to grow in the organization, I did not enjoy the work. I would start my day and look forward for it to be over. I did not work with any passion. Worst of all, I was trading my life for this career. Because this was the only profession I knew and spent many years establishing myself, it never actually occurred to me that change was possible. I simply assumed that I would have to stick it out and hopefully do well enough financially so that I could retire early and THEN begin to enjoy my days.

Then I got involved in personal development programs. I started to learn more about life and more about the mind. I quickly realized that I had been operating my life following a set of beliefs and paradigms that were not necessarily ideas that I agreed with.

I had always assumed that everyone disliked their job and it was just something we all had to go through to earn our retirement. When I found out that there were many people who loved their work and had found a way to make a living based on their passions, I was very intrigued. I was also wary of the idea because it sounded too good to be true.

As I started to study some of these people and learn about the inspiring lives they were living, I realized a very important distinction between them and myself. Unlike me at the time, they DID appreciate the value of each living day and they also structured their life in such a way that they were trading their days for a purpose worthy of them and their true values. When I compared them to myself, I was trading the days of my life for something that made me unhappy. When I dissected it further, I was choosing this lifestyle because I was too afraid to change. I was afraid to give up the salary and beneÞts, afraid to give up the position that took so many years to obtain, afraid to admit to others that I was unhappy and afraid to decide what I truly wanted out of life. The more I thought about it and the more I studied personal development teachings and success stories, the greater my desire for change became.

I started to reprogram my mind so that the pain of remaining status quo was actually more intense than the fear of change. I know many personal growth programs advocate positive thinking, but negative motivators inspire action for all of us. It certainly worked in my case. Not only did this new mindset drive me to find my true passion and true calling in life (speaking and coaching), it helped me establish a sense of personal freedom that can best be described as liberation.

There came a point where my self image literally shifted and I saw myself safely and confidently walking away from the career that I had so desperately held onto for many years. The days of my life were far too important and valuable to be spending them doing something that had no meaning for me. After I resigned from that position, I made a personal commitment to dedicate the rest of my working days doing only that which I love.

I now love my work. I look forward to my days. I look forward to new projects and new opportunities. I never think about retirement because I never plan on retiring. When you do what you love, why would you ever want to stop?

 

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Taking action

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Simply taking action without any direction or goal is a futile exercise. You’ll never reach your goals, and you’ll never attain your riches if all you have is a plan.

You Must Take Action

For many, planning is the easy part. They can plan successful business after successful business and they are in fact great planners. hat keeps them from being successful is that they fail to act.

A plan is just a bunch of written words on paper. It doesn’t create a business. You and your actions create a business. You’re the heart and soul of your business.

On the other side of the coin are those individuals who are superior at taking action. They see an opportunity and jump headlong right into it.This creates inconsistent and unfocused results. Some of those opportunities or actions may create profits, however if they’re not founded in or based on a personal vision of success and passion, they’re not going to last. A roadmap to riches is about lasting and sustainable success – not a flash in the pan score.

So, if planning alone isn’t enough and action alone isn’t enough, what’s the solution?

Inspired Action

Inspired action is action that is taken to support your vision. It’s why you’re creating a roadmap. Each aspect of your journey will be founded on your vision. Every step you take will be based on your vision, your definition of success and your passions. Now, that isn’t to say that you cannot take action that isn’t in your strategic plan. However, you must decide if the action you’re considering supports your vision.

For example, let’s say you have created a business writing and selling travel guides to rock climbing destinations. Your vision is to create a guide for every destination, large and small and to be known as the single best climbing destination resource around the world. Your definition of success has you traveling the world to explore and research these destinations while a team and technology automate the marketing, selling and fulfillment aspect of your business. Now, a manufacturer of climbing gear comes to you and offers you a partnership. You promote their gear and in return you make a percentage of the profits. Your initial reaction may be to jump at the opportunity or it may be to say “no thank you.” However, upon closer investigation of the opportunity you may see that this promotion may allow you to attain your vision more quickly and give you the income you need to travel more or to outsource more tasks so you have more time to travel. On the other hand, promoting this company may take more resources than you wish to allocate and therefore not the right opportunity for you.

Careful analysis and ensuring that each action you take supports your vision will ensure a steady path on your roadmap to riches.

Inspired action is your goal. As you’re creating or refining your business, create a habit of asking yourself, “Is this action going to support my business vision?”

Taking Action in Baby Steps or Massive Leaps – Which is Better?

Just like there are people who prefer to plan instead of taking action or prefer to take action instead of plan, there are those who prefer to take small steps and those who love the large leap.

It doesn’t matter what your preference is or your action taking personality. What is important is to recognize your action taking personality and plan for it accordingly.

Action In Small Steps

For many, large goals, like a million in sales or even starting a new business, are more easily achieved when broken down into smaller bites or steps. This is a great strategy to make the process seem manageable. It’s much easier to say, “I’m going to create my sales letter today” than “I’m going to make a million dollars.”

As you create your roadmap and strategies to help you achieve your vision, it’s important to create goals as well as systems and data to measure success. We’ll talk in detail about systems, metrics and standard operating procedures later in Chapter Nine. For now, know that as you create your goals and strategies to make them a reality it’s important to know your personality and how you prefer to tackle goals.

If you find smaller steps more manageable, then by all means that’s how you will create your plan.

Taking Action in Massive Leaps

Other people have a “dive right in” personality and prefer to reach their goals today, not tomorrow. That’s great.  Do whichever works better for you. As with small steps, it’s important to recognize your personality early and plan for it.

If, for example, your goal is to establish a partnership with a business that will complement yours, you may accomplish this in a single day by planning and brainstorming, researching and then getting on the phone and calling your ideal partner. (If you prefer smaller steps, this process may take you weeks or even months, which is perfectly fine, acceptable, and a prosperous way to do business.)

The important thing to recognize and to remember is that if your business plan goes against your personality and natural way to do things, it’s not going to work. You must embrace your strengths and natural tendencies in order to leverage your business and business plan in the most profitable way possible.

Moving Beyond Your Comfort Zone

Occasionally, you’ll come across a goal that you feel inspired to tackle a different way. That is to say, you may be a person who tackles goals with smaller strategic steps, however this particular goal has inspired you to jump right in and get it done. Don’t fight this impulse. Acknowledge that it is different than your usual MO and embrace it. We have these impulses and reactions for a reason. If you’re inspired to move beyond your comfort zone or traditional mode of operandi then do it!

Action, inspired action, is required to take your vision, your dream, and your definition of success and make it a reality. Without it, without inspired action or action which is motivated by a conscious plan, your business is little more than a dream and a piece of paper.

Action is required!

 

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An affirmation about goal setting

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I am passionate about my goals.

My passion drives me forward to live the life of my dreams. I know what I want in life and I set goals to get me there. I know that each goal I achieve brings me in union with what I desire. I feel truly invigorated with each success!

Meeting a goal, no matter how big or small, strengthens my confidence and self-esteem. I enjoy these feelings and strive to receive them as often as possible.

Setting and achieving goals is a never-ending circle of positivity that fuels my passion even more. My passion encourages me to persevere over obstacles and it is replenished and increased with every goal I complete.

My passion enables my success. I use tools to ignite and refuel my passion on a daily basis, even when I face challenges that try to smother it.

My tools include affirmations to transform negative thoughts into positive ones, meditation to relax and rejuvenate my energy, and notes and pictures to inspire and remind me of my goals.

Today, I choose to feel inspired by my passions and let the excitement propel me forward to achieve my goals, regardless of any challenges that may arise.

Self-Reflection Questions:

1. Am I passionate about my goals?
2. Where can I find additional inspiration?
3. What task can I achieve today to fuel my passion and get me back on track toward my goals?

 

Changing your life with Zen

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There are so many ways that you can change your life, but you have to want to change. You have to have the drive and the desire to change in order to keep yourself going on the right path. Keep in mind that Zen is not easy and neither is change. Change is hard to accept and it is also hard to try to do. You have to look deep inside yourself in order to change your life. You need to find a reason why you are in need of change and figure out why you want to change; because there is no way that you'll be able to continue with your life the way that you are going. You need to practice Zen with an open mind and you need to listen to yourself. When you begin to meditate you are going to find the answers that you seek. It is up to you to take the knowledge and listen to yourself while using the knowledge to keep yourself going strong. When it comes to meditation, you'll find that there are many feelings that you'll have, but the key is to find peace. Once you have found your peace you are able to live with Zen.

The first thing that you'll want to do is figure out what it is that you want to change. You may want to change things that you have going on with your family or friends. You'll also want to look at your own character and even your own identity as to what it is that you want to change. You'll want to go over yourself with a fine toothcomb. You'll need to also look inside yourself as it what it is that you want to be. If you are able to get yourself on the right track, then you'll be able to take to the change appropriately. You'll wan to consider that there are many setbacks that you'll have to deal with, however, are you ready to take over your life and take back some of the control? There are a lot of things that you'll have to consider when trying to change.

Secondly, you have to ask yourself how much change can you handle at one time. You may want to change your home, your job, your mate, and so on. How much change can you take at once? Some people need to achieve their change in small steps, while others feel the need to change everything at once. Keep in mind that you don't want to overload yourself with change. You have to have someone to fall back on. You'll need to take yourself inconsideration, but you also need to consider many other things. You'll wan to consider the stress that you will be under to change from others. You can't make promises to change to those who you love if you have no intentions of changing. Keep in mind that what you do will not only affect yourself, but it will affect others.

Something that you may want to achieve is inner peace. Keep in mind that you can achieve peace and serenity with Zen training. When you use Zen you are going to find that answers that you are searching for. You will also find that Zen will put you back in touch with yourself. You will find all the answers that you seek. You'll want to consider that Zen can allow you to see changes in yourself immediately. You'll need to practice Zen as much as possible and on a regular basis in order to see the changes.

When you are using Zen to change yourself, you need to consider that this is not an easy battle. You'll need to consider that Zen will begin to make you feel bolder and you'll have the strength to change the things that you feel that you just can't change. Also, you'll want to keep in mind that there are many other things that you'll have to consider. Not only will you want to use Zen to help change yourself, but also accept the many things that you cannot change. You'll want to make sure that you use Zen training for positive change, not negative goals. It is very important that you set goals for yourself and that you also care enough about yourself to keep things positive. Zen will help you find all the answers that you are looking for, but you need to be open to the answers that you get.

 

Developing a Powerful Vision

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A vision is an ambition that you create in your mind and aspire for it and plan for it from start to the end. It is this vision that drives you forward and aims your life with a purpose to strive ahead. It gives the power to achieve your ambitions and also inspires people around you with your positive mindset and drive to move forward.

But, how does one plan on developing a powerful vision and inspire their lives and the lives of others under its influence?

Think Ahead and Plan

If you have the power to dream, you can plan your vision to meet your goals. Think of how you are and how you want your future to be. You can create a vision not only to bring in power and success to your career but it can also work for your relationships and other aspects of life. When you think ahead and plan in your mind, you can create a vision. Let it be very specific and not something that is very vaguely pictured.

Think Positive

To develop a powerful vision, you need to develop a positive mindset. Unless you think positive, the actions or planning cannot happen in a positive manner. So, it is very essential to have a positive thinking in order to move ahead. Without positive thinking, there is no vision. Without a vision, there is no goal achieved in life.

Use the Power of Affirmations

Positive thinking and affirmation with a belief in yourself is very important to develop powerful visions and carry it forward to attain success. You need to have motivation and it should be constant and there is nothing better than the power of affirmations to help you get all the motivation you need.

Set Goals

Based on your vision, it is essential to set goals both short term and long term. It is essential to visit these goals often and check how many of them you have been able to achieve. If you have been successful in attaining your goals, celebrate it and take credit for it. This will help you remain motivated. But, at the same time, if you have not been able to achieve some of these goals, it is best not to lose heart but to see why you have not been able to reach these goals and look at how to strive towards reaching them.

The vision that you have generated from your zeal to excel should not just remain a unfulfilled dream. Rather, it is in your hands to give it the proper shape and molding that it requires to make it grow and attain fruition. Otherwise, the vision has no value.

Self realization an important step in personal development

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When you are trying to develop your personality, there are several things that you need to look at, but probably the most important thing is that you should have the correct realization about yourself. You should know who you are. It is only when you have a complete realization of yourself that you can plan to make improvements. Self realization an important step in personal development.

Each and every one of us has their own strengths and weaknesses. You have them too. You may be a very confident person, but at the same time, even if you don’t admit it openly, you surely have some shortcomings. If you are trying to develop your personality, the first thing is that you have to come out of this denial. Denial leaves no scope for improvement, because you become shortsighted about your weaknesses. Overcome the denial and accept to yourself what your limitations are. When you do that, it is as good as telling yourself that these are the aspects where you have to improve.

At the same time, you have to realize the things that you can do very well. There will certainly be a host of such things. And there will be one special talent at which you excel. This is the talent that defines your profession, or maybe your passion or your hobby. This is the one thing that you can pursue for your entire life, and keep becoming better at it. This is what you need for your professional, personal and creative growth, and it becomes the focus of your life. You may have a flair for writing, or maybe you can build website, or probably you are good at sales, or perhaps you can handle a truck very well. All these are special talents. Realize what talent you have and keep improving upon it.

Understand your personal limitations as well. Do people think of you as a good, friendly person? Do you have many friends? Is your spouse happy with you? Do you keep your children happy? Are you prone to temper outbursts? These are the things you should know, and work upon them. The main thing is that you should understand that you have follies in you and improve.

In conclusion, if you are looking for personal development, you have to have a pragmatic view of your faults and your talents. This tells you which direction you have to take your life into. Self realization  is an important step in personal development